Men and women are all meant to share life and live meaningfully and not the other way round! Long live couples in marriage!
As most of us can testify, a life well spent is a celebration. Human beings are social beings and we find solace and fulfillment in one another. Whoever seeks to live a solitary life shall not experience the taste of life here on earth. There is a trend of women and men seeking solace in themselves. This is wrong. There are same sex seeking solace in each other, this is equally wrong.
It is in the diversity of nature that we find unity. One cannot find complimentary component in the same sex or the same person. The fact that we are so diverse, is the reason why we need each other in life and this must bring joy! A men looks for a woman who would fill the gap he has. That is why the English people would refer to a wife as a best half. Life of couples should mean a real complimentary doctrine in our life style. Should this miss out, whether man or women, the person shall never feel fulfilled no matter what.
There is tendency today in Kenya to find this solace and fulfillment in life in oneself. This is deceptive and psychologists who are trained in sexual counseling will be able to tell you that something is very wrong and one may suffer from psycho social disorder of some kind. Africans are not safe from this social pathology. Some women believe that men are not honest and not the right people to live with. Well, it is wise to admit that men are necessary. Some men also do believe that they do not need women and seek solace in wealth. This is equally wrong and may not make the man happy.
Women are not objects neither are men. They are loving beings that can easily get into social relationships. This is how things ought to be. A woman who thinks that a man is a milk cow and must be exploited is missing out from the logic. A man who thinks that a woman is just a tool for sex and to satisfy a man is also missing the point and must go back to the drawing board.
Couple life must be centered around love and not material wealth! There must be strong feeling of friendship and fidelity. This kind of relationship must be nurtured on a daily basis and every moment. There must be friendship for such relationship to be operational. There must be concern for values and culture. There must be some amount of ethics and morality. All this does not mean that one must be perfect. There no perfect human being. If a man seeks to marry a virgin in order to get female perfection, then he is already missing the point. If a woman is looking for a man similar to her dad, then she is also missing the point. We must admit that life is good because it is diverse.
I do love my wife and believe that our 20 years of marriage have been fruitful! I do recommend that whoever wants to marry must cherish love and friendship.
Best wishes to couples and families that have experienced true love!